It's Complicated

What’s a relationship without trust? It’s impossible to be happy with someone when your thoughts are constantly driven away by negative thoughts of your partner with someone else. It’s common, very common, in fact, in most relationships.

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Trust issues drive you crazy. They do. You could never be at peace. You constantly want to know what’s on your partner’s phone, where they are, and what they’re up to. But trust issues don’t just magically appear in a relationship, they often emerge from a fear of being hurt. Again.

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Many people may wonder, if you have trust issues, why not just walk away? It’s much harder than it seems. Once you’ve been hurt, and once you feel like you can no longer trust your partner, something in your heart keeps you holding on. You may feel like although they’ve messed up, everyone makes mistakes, and that they will change. Sadly, that is rarely the case.

Once you forgive someone for their mistakes, it is likely they will do it again. Once your partner knows how forgiving and how weak your heart has become and the soft spot that you now have for them, they will take advantage. And they’ll keep going. And they’ll try to convince you that your trust issues come from an issue that you have within yourself because they could never take responsibility for the hurt and fear that they have caused you.

It’s always something.

With trust issues, you can’t even trust your partner at work. Isn’t that crazy? And sometimes your sixth sense won’t fail you. If your gut feeling is telling you something, believe it. Often times, it’s true. Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve heard it all, and their all time favorite response is, “he/she’s just a friend/coworker”. Bullshit.

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Once you catch your partner in a lie. They’ll deny it. Trust me. They hate admitting their mistakes, and often they will play the role of victim. You could have pictures, or other types of proof for their lies, and still they’ll look you straight in your eye, and tell you “that’s not me”, or “that’s old”. They’ll do this so much, that you start to question yourself. And at that point, you don’t only have trust issues with your partner, but with yourself as well.

And despite it all, you still feel love. You catch yourself questioning whether it’s you that’s insane, or if your crazy thoughts are actually a reality.

It sucks. And it drives you insane. You sit in class and your mind wanders. Why would you live with that pain? Why do you want to constantly live in a state of paranoia? You’re doing it to yourself. Relationships WILL COME with trust issues. And the worst part of it is, that it could be years into a relationship. It doesn’t have to start right away. It could YEARS later. And all of a sudden five years into your relationship, you catch yourself questioning your partner. Something you may have never done before. And that’s why relationships suck so much. You never know when your partner will switch up on you, but it only takes a second for the trust you had for them to crumble to pieces.

Relationships. You see them all over social media, while you walk down the streets, and even in your school hallways. They’re everywhere. Many people who aren’t in one, many times wish they were because they seem great. And yea, it’s great to have companionship and feel like you always have someone that you can rely on, but what images won’t tell you is the truth. Relationships suck.

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Really, they do. In my blog, I will discuss the many difficulties that may come across a relationship, and how these difficulties can negatively impact, not only the relationship, but yourself as an individual. In reality, a relationship almost forces you to lose sight of your own individuality as you begin to think and do things, not only for you, but for your partner as well.

I blog to give young people a warning. Don’t do it. Don’t fall in love. At times, the pain you feel is almost unbearable. But then you think, “I’m still young, I have a whole life ahead of me” , and still that’s not enough to cause you happiness. It’s difficult, and in reality, it’s extra weight on your shoulders.

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I don’t blog to discourage anyone from experiencing love. In fact, I write because if you do fall for someone, or see potential in someone, you should be aware of the severe consequences and difficulties that tag along with it. I wish I would have had advice years back when I first met my high school sweetheart.

My blog will be full of warnings. Relationships aren’t sweet. They’re not. They hurt. You’ll cry. There’s many things that a social media post won’t show. Trust me, I speak from experience. You may believe that two people are happy together, but in reality comfort is what helps maintain most relationships. Not love, and that’s truly sad.

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Furthermore, every week, I will post an issue in a relationship and describe first hand how each has made me feel. Throughout my posts, I feel like many people who have been in relationships will relate to. I say this because although not every relationship is the same, most relationships will experience these issues. No matter how hard you try to maintain a relationship in a stable and loving manner, sooner or later, most will fall.

It’s the sad truth

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Of course , it’s definitely hard to accept the fact that one will never find real happiness with love. Many young kids look forward to their wedding days, and what a beautiful day that must be for two people who love each other. However, growing up and experiencing the reality of the world, those dreams slowly start to deter.

It’s better to know, than to not know. I hope my blog can help people understand, that it’s okay to be alone because most relationships are no good. I also hope that it helps people that have experienced heartbreak as it may comforting to know that other people can relate to the way you feel.

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I look forward to hearing stories from my own audience similar to my experiences. I want others to understand that it’s okay to feel broken because of love. But I hope my blog can help you think in a different way. It’s better to feel lonely, than to be stuck in an unhappy and toxic relationship.

Follow along, you should be aware of what you’re getting yourself into.
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