#money – It's Complicated

So, lets finish this off.

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I’ve spent an entire semester discussing all the difficulties and headaches that come with being in a relationship, and hopefully I’ve been able to convince you all that:

Writing this blog was definitely an eye-opener because although I knew that relationships were difficult, bringing all the factors together was overwhelming as it made me realize how much I’ve adjusted my lifestyle because of my relationship and how much harm its cost who I truly am.

When I first started my blog, I was a little worried that I would run out of things to talk about. But, every week I paid closer attention to all the issues that I face in my relationship and its become a topic that I can talk about for hours and hours. Each week a new thought and idea flew into my head seamlessly. Now, there are so many more issues that I can talk about and discuss when it comes to relationships, because in reality, they’re endless.

I hope that I didn’t discourage anyone from going out in the world and finding love, but I hope that my readers now understand that we must always have our guard up in order to stop our feelings from getting hurt because relationship issues are much than : trust, betrayal, revenge, cash, distraction, social media, the disagreements , the routines, meeting the family, and the memories. New issues emerge everyday! Things you wouldn’t even think of become issues in relationships. It’s ridiculous.

Looking back at all my previous posts, I can definitely say that it was a very fun experience. This is something I would’ve never found myself doing had it not been assigned to us at the beginning of the semester, and now almost at the end, I found myself enjoying every minute of it. The comments I received, and seeing how interested so many people were in relationships definitely inspired me to keep going, and to be completely truthful about everything I was writing because in reality, so many people could relate. I never expected to get all the support that I did in my blog. In fact, I remember talking to my professor when I handed in my blog proposal and telling him “They’re going to hate it”, but it all turned out great. Taking sensitive topics that many people avoid talking about was a challenge because you’re not always going to have people that agree with the things you say. Many people support love. Many people have found true love, and if you have, good for you. But even those perfect relationships have their issues. Low-key though.

Continue to focus on the important things in life. Relationships should be your peace, not your headache. Remember that no matter what relationship you are in, or with who, you’ll have some issues eventually, even if it’s a minor like you’re spending too much cash on this person. Go out and meet new people because real love will come to you, stop forcing these unnecessary relationships. And most importantly, always remember: It’s complicated.

But for now:

Before you decide you want to be in a relationship, think about your wallet. Being in a relationship, although it’s done out of “love”, will force you to spend money in amounts that you would never even normally spend on yourself. It’s crazy. You catch yourself asking for extra shifts at work because you saw something you want to buy your significant other. 40 hours a week is no longer enough. So you spend your days working like:

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As a college student, I think twice before swiping my card for a 4 for $4 meal at Wendy’s for myself. But, that instantly changes when it’s for someone you love.

One ice cream, becomes two icecreams. One lunch plate, becomes two lunch plates. One movie ticket, becomes two movie tickets. Your expenses multiply and your wallet will suffer. Spending recklessly for someone you love is normal. But is it really worth it?

No.

Relationships leave you heartbroken, and broke.

A netflix account isn’t enough. It’s only good for a while, and here and there on certain days. Your significant other will want to be taken out to the movies, restaurants, and you will constantly want to come up with different date ideas, even if you can’t really afford it. You sit on your bed scrolling through your bank account calculating how much money you’ll have left after your date night. You receive your work schedule and the first thing you begin to do is calculate the amount of hours you’re working, and how much you will make because now you have an extra bill. An expensive one.

You go to the mall to buy yourself a pair of shoes with your significant other and they say “ I like this shirt!”. You stop. You no longer want the shoes. You want/need to get them that shirt.

This is because we are no longer in control. Our mind starts working differently and we’re no longer our main priority. You try to do anything to make them happy and if that means spending your last dime on them, you will.

In relationships, people can no longer have a budget. Many relationships have lost their meaning, and are no longer about meaningful connections, words, and actions. It’s about who gets each other the better gift. It’s a competition.

You swipe your card left and right, restaurant to restaurant, movie to movie forgetting that at the end of the day you’re going to have $2.42 left in your bank account, that you will have to live on for the next week and a half. Now you have to starve yourself during your lunch break for 10 days straight. But hey, as long as he/she is happy. Right?

Although materialistic objects should never affect a relationship. They do. And It’s not that they’re asking you for these things, but because you want to do anything to satisfy them, you lose control. It’s better to stay away. Focus on you and understand that relationships WILL have you scared to look at your bank account.

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Even if you make enough money to take care of your own needs and your partners, it’s still a hassle. Give yourself a budget and save. Save that money and take a trip to a country you’ve been wanting to visit, alone! Or with friends even. Who needs a baecation? They’re double the cost, so going alone will benefit your pocket. As long as you stay away from relationships, you’ll stay debt free.

Remember: Catch flights, not feelings.

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Final Warning

Save the Cash