#memories – It's Complicated

So, lets finish this off.

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I’ve spent an entire semester discussing all the difficulties and headaches that come with being in a relationship, and hopefully I’ve been able to convince you all that:

Writing this blog was definitely an eye-opener because although I knew that relationships were difficult, bringing all the factors together was overwhelming as it made me realize how much I’ve adjusted my lifestyle because of my relationship and how much harm its cost who I truly am.

When I first started my blog, I was a little worried that I would run out of things to talk about. But, every week I paid closer attention to all the issues that I face in my relationship and its become a topic that I can talk about for hours and hours. Each week a new thought and idea flew into my head seamlessly. Now, there are so many more issues that I can talk about and discuss when it comes to relationships, because in reality, they’re endless.

I hope that I didn’t discourage anyone from going out in the world and finding love, but I hope that my readers now understand that we must always have our guard up in order to stop our feelings from getting hurt because relationship issues are much than : trust, betrayal, revenge, cash, distraction, social media, the disagreements , the routines, meeting the family, and the memories. New issues emerge everyday! Things you wouldn’t even think of become issues in relationships. It’s ridiculous.

Looking back at all my previous posts, I can definitely say that it was a very fun experience. This is something I would’ve never found myself doing had it not been assigned to us at the beginning of the semester, and now almost at the end, I found myself enjoying every minute of it. The comments I received, and seeing how interested so many people were in relationships definitely inspired me to keep going, and to be completely truthful about everything I was writing because in reality, so many people could relate. I never expected to get all the support that I did in my blog. In fact, I remember talking to my professor when I handed in my blog proposal and telling him “They’re going to hate it”, but it all turned out great. Taking sensitive topics that many people avoid talking about was a challenge because you’re not always going to have people that agree with the things you say. Many people support love. Many people have found true love, and if you have, good for you. But even those perfect relationships have their issues. Low-key though.

Continue to focus on the important things in life. Relationships should be your peace, not your headache. Remember that no matter what relationship you are in, or with who, you’ll have some issues eventually, even if it’s a minor like you’re spending too much cash on this person. Go out and meet new people because real love will come to you, stop forcing these unnecessary relationships. And most importantly, always remember: It’s complicated.

But for now:

The worst part about relationships is that once it’s over, you have to deal with the memories. You understand that ending the relationship was necessary, yet you can’t stop thinking about them. You’ve taken thousands of pictures, gone to hundreds of places, just simply done so much with this one person you no longer speak to and it’s a scary feeling. A person that once knew everything about you, is now a complete stranger. Memories can leave a person more hurt that they already are by constantly reminding them of how lonely they truly are.

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With the holidays approaching, it’s even worse. You remember yourself stressing over what gift to get your significant other last year, the cute holiday cards, your new year’s kiss, and now it’s all over. Instead, the holidays become an interrogation from your family members and friends of “what happened with ….”.

And for some odd reason snapchat’s recent update felt it was a good idea to come up with snapchat memories?? Terrible. Now everytime you go on the app you are constantly reminded of how happy you were with them 2 years ago, or even just last year. It’s torturous.

Memories are great and all, but they are difficult to deal with. Especially when you are trying to get over someone. You go to restaurants, movies, or any other place and you are reminded of the time you went to that exact place with your significant other. But now, you’re here alone, or even with friends or family, and it just doesn’t feel the same.

However, often times these memories lie. People often only remember the good in others, and forget how terrible the relationship truly was. Your photos don’t remind you of the miserable moments, instead they remind you only of the happy ones. STOP IT. Forget about it, delete the pictures, and avoid anything that will give you even the slightest feeling of regret as you reminisce.

The minute you let someone in is the minute that these memories will begin to form. But as fast as these memories form is as fast as these people walk out of your life… trust me. And it’s scary to think that two strangers knew everything about each other at a point, but that’s how relationships work. You let someone in, so that they can walk right out.

So, before opening up to someone, understand that once it’s over, the memories can haunt you. These memories prevent you from moving on, and sometimes simply deleting pictures won’t do much. These memories live with you, they are a part of you, and they will be for a very long time.

Don’t put yourself in a situation that can leave you reminiscing during the most unexpected moments. Holidays won’t feel the same. Parks won’t feel the same. Movies won’t feel the same. It’s a scary feeling, but it is definitely a real one. Understand that although relationships die out, the memories live on forever and unfortunately there’s not much that we can do to avoid it.

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