#holiday – It's Complicated

So, lets finish this off.

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I’ve spent an entire semester discussing all the difficulties and headaches that come with being in a relationship, and hopefully I’ve been able to convince you all that:

Writing this blog was definitely an eye-opener because although I knew that relationships were difficult, bringing all the factors together was overwhelming as it made me realize how much I’ve adjusted my lifestyle because of my relationship and how much harm its cost who I truly am.

When I first started my blog, I was a little worried that I would run out of things to talk about. But, every week I paid closer attention to all the issues that I face in my relationship and its become a topic that I can talk about for hours and hours. Each week a new thought and idea flew into my head seamlessly. Now, there are so many more issues that I can talk about and discuss when it comes to relationships, because in reality, they’re endless.

I hope that I didn’t discourage anyone from going out in the world and finding love, but I hope that my readers now understand that we must always have our guard up in order to stop our feelings from getting hurt because relationship issues are much than : trust, betrayal, revenge, cash, distraction, social media, the disagreements , the routines, meeting the family, and the memories. New issues emerge everyday! Things you wouldn’t even think of become issues in relationships. It’s ridiculous.

Looking back at all my previous posts, I can definitely say that it was a very fun experience. This is something I would’ve never found myself doing had it not been assigned to us at the beginning of the semester, and now almost at the end, I found myself enjoying every minute of it. The comments I received, and seeing how interested so many people were in relationships definitely inspired me to keep going, and to be completely truthful about everything I was writing because in reality, so many people could relate. I never expected to get all the support that I did in my blog. In fact, I remember talking to my professor when I handed in my blog proposal and telling him “They’re going to hate it”, but it all turned out great. Taking sensitive topics that many people avoid talking about was a challenge because you’re not always going to have people that agree with the things you say. Many people support love. Many people have found true love, and if you have, good for you. But even those perfect relationships have their issues. Low-key though.

Continue to focus on the important things in life. Relationships should be your peace, not your headache. Remember that no matter what relationship you are in, or with who, you’ll have some issues eventually, even if it’s a minor like you’re spending too much cash on this person. Go out and meet new people because real love will come to you, stop forcing these unnecessary relationships. And most importantly, always remember: It’s complicated.

But for now:

With the holidays approaching, it’s necessary to discuss a very important part of a relationship: meeting the family!

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It’s all fun and games, until you find out that their family doesn’t like you. Luckily for me, I have never had this issue, but many of my friends have, and what I’ve seen from it, it can have a very negative impact on a relationship.

Everyone’s family is different. Meeting your boyfriend or girlfriend’s family can be a big eye-opener to your significant others values. It can either make you realize how much you love where they come from, or make you realize how much you don’t want to be part of their family long term. If this is the case RUN while you can.

Family is very important, you always have to remember this, even if your significant other tells you their family’s opinion is irrelevant, they’re LYING. Remember their family was there long before you were, so if it came down to you or them, they will choose them.

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Of course, we all want to spend the holidays with our significant other, but how could we if their family is a headache? We’d do anything for them to like us, we go out of our ways to impress them, as if our relationship was with them instead. I’ve seen my friends do so much for their significant other’s families and yet nothing seems to satisfy them. Once they’ve made up their mind about you, that’s pretty much it for you.

It’s not that you need their family’s approval to be happy in a relationship, but you’d hope that everyone gets along to build a more stress free relationship, and unfortunately that’s not always the case.

If your in laws don’t approve of you, they may begin to constantly point out some of your flaws to your partner which can ultimately alter the way they perceive you. Or even worse, cause a split in the relationship they have with their child. And you don’t want that either. So many times, meeting the family can lead to you finding it necessary to distance yourself from the relationship you have with them in order to save the other relationships in their life.

And it doesn’t even have to be that they don’t like you, it could be that you don’t like them. And yet, you have to pretend. You don’t ever want to make your partner have to choose between you and their family, they’ve been there for the beginning and they want to be a part of their life as bad as you do. But it’s certainly a very uncomfortable situation to be in.

It sucks. But meeting the family can be a very eye opening experience. You should never have to pretend to be someone else or change your personal habits to satisfy others, especially your in laws. You’d hope when you go meet them that they aren’t awful people but you never know what’s in store for you.

So if you haven’t already, good luck meeting the family this holiday season.

Happy Holidays !

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Final Warning

Meeting The Family