Eventually, most relationships become a routine. Especially after you’ve been in the relationship for so long. You know everything about one another, and many times, the excitement of it all dies out.
Everything in the relationships becomes so repetitive. The routined conversations, where you discuss the same things daily, the shows you watch, the date nights, the same good morning, and goodnight texts. It’s all the same. They’re boring. You’re stuck doing the same things with your significant other constantly, every day, every season. You’re bored. The honeymoon phase where both partners are completely head over heels, getting to know one another and exploring things together, doesn’t last forever. Unfortunately, in most cases it often dies out much sooner than you’d expect.
And it’s a weird feeling because you love them, but it’s like there’s no excitement, You’re young and have so much left to live but now you’ve lived out the best parts of your love life. It’s like, what next? Comfort is the main reason for these routined relationships. Once there is comfort in a relationship, many times you or your significant other may feel as if there was no reason to try to make things exciting because in reality, what’s the point? I already have them.
Of course, it shouldn’t be like this, but in many cases it is! And there’s really not much you can do once your relationship has passed it’s peak. And it’s sweet yes, to feel at home with someone, but is it worth it? It could never be.
Once a relationship becomes this way, it only goes downhill from there. There’s many things that you wish you could do with friends but they may not be okay with your significant other. And you’re young and you hold yourself back because you don’t want to break this bond, but it feels like you’ve become a robot caged in a constant cycle of the SAME things.
Especially at college level, I don’t think it should ever be okay for young individuals to become trapped in a relationship that prevents them from enjoying youth, which is suppose to be “the best years of your life”.
Never get stuck in the routines that are often unavoidable in many relationships. You already have a routined work or school schedule, why would you get involved in a relationship that will make the rest of your life a routine as well?
It’s great to feel at home with someone, but never let the comfort keep you there. You can find comfort with family…adding a plus one is useless, and adds to the boredom. Many times this comfort prevents people from finding real happiness. Every day feels the same, and obviously, there’s nothing amusing about that. So prevent it, stay away from relationships that will make you feel caged. It’s not what life is about. I’ve seen it in my friends, I’ve seen it in myself. This repetition. There’s so much for the world to offer, and yet many people find themselves stuck.
Go out and live life differently everyday. The unexpected in life is what is remembered most. Enjoy yourself and have fun. But most importantly, avoid every routined relationship that crosses your way. `
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That is one of the most terrifying things I think while being in a relationship which is being too comfortable with the person. What I mean by this is that there are no more sparks anymore. And, both partners start to question “what is the point of staying together if nothing seems new or exciting anymore?” This can lead to cheating and then many other issues. Of course, not all relationships are like that. But, relationships should not be boring or feeling trapped but rather exciting and exploring. You brought out really great points! Great job!!
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This is definitely a big issue in many relationships. Being in a relationship with the same guy for over 3 years, it was SUCH a routine. And man was I bored, but at least I was comfortable? NOPE. However, in the comment above, not every relationship is like this. I’ve been with my significant other for a little over 2 years now and I must say that the ‘honeymoon’ phase has not died out yet and I do not see it dying out anytime soon! It may be the same ‘good mornings’ and ‘good nights’ but to me I do not feel like its a routine! I think you covered some great warning signs for relationships out there that may not work out in the long run because of these complications but may struggle to connect to some readers that don’t identify with this issues! Overall, still a great post and you made some great points!
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This is honestly one of my biggest fears because spending the rest of your life with one person is kind of a scary idea. I always figured though that the person I will marry will be someone who I never grow tired of and the honeymoon phase never dies out. However, its hard to have this mindset for this exact reason, because people get bored after a while and they don’t stick around. I also think people just need time to mature and the college age is a hard time to have a steady relationship.
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This is the definition of complicated. Keeping the relationship exciting and fun is always a key to success in dating. I always try to act the same way from the beginning of the relationship. When you get “comfortable” it’s not necessarily bad, but usually the relationship tends to go down hill from there. I think treating a partner the same way from when you first began dating is the best. It could get difficult at times but you just have to remember and not lose sight that you really appreciate your partner.
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I totally agree with you that a relationship can get repetitive when both partners become comfortable. And I agree that no one should ever stay in a relationship because it’s comfortable– it shouldn’t be much more than that. So if it is more than comfort, the challenge is to keep things interesting. A couple should be trying new things together new hobbies, new adventures, new conversation. And the most important factor of avoiding too much comfort, is to not assume that just because you’re with them now that you’ll always have them. Neither partner should ever be too comfortable where they don’t think the other person would never go anywhere. You made some really good points, great post!
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I always find myself coming to your blog because I relate to this the most and I hate the fact that I do lol. not that I dont like your blog its I relate to basically everything its almost weird haha. everything about a relationship is a routine and you find yourself going though the same thing almost everyday. its always good to change things up and try something new its healthy for both partners in the relationship. good post
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There are definitely fair and strong points in your blog that apply to a lot of relationships. I have experienced this feeling of staying in a relationship because its “comfortable”, unfortunately. But what I found to be a solid solution was when both members of the relationship have an appreciation for independence and at least a small desire to be adventurous. Of course this “routine” may arise again, but in life, it rarely lasts too long.
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