Relationships are a total distraction. When you are in a relationship, you have to find time for one another. It’s a must. You’re in college and have exams coming up, but instead you’re getting ready for date night with your partner.
It’s not that they force us to go with them, or to spend time with them. It’s that we want to, and because we want to, we begin to adjust our schedules in a way where we set out maybe TOO much time for these relationships, and this can have a very negative impact on our lives.
Your priorities begin to change. You’re a full time student, you may or may not be working a part-time, but you’re schedule is always busy. You may find yourself running out of time to do homework or study, but one never runs out of time to see their boo. Right?
I don’t know why it’s like that, but it is. There’s times where I know I should stay on campus to get work done, but I can’t get myself to do it. I’m distracted. I need to go back home. I need to find time for our weekend activities, knowing that I barely have time to get any work done.
This is very common in relationships. I’ve seen it not only in myself, but in many of my friends as well. And it’s not even just about your schedule, it’s also about the fact that you constantly want to talk to them! So you sit in class on your phone the entire time texting them, not listening to a word that was said in lecture, but at least you went, right?
Sometimes all the work that has to be put in a relationship may distract one from achieving their ultimate goals. Many people don’t realize that if one’s partner’s goals does not match their own, it can most definitely bring a person off track. And this isn’t how it should be. We shouldn’t have to adjust our goals to satisfy the needs of others. However, in relationships, especially more serious once, you have to make compromises.
The best thing to do is to focus on yourself, and you can do so by staying away from relationships that can ultimately distract you from your priorities, like school. Don’t risk your GPA over someone who isn’t worth it or understanding. Don’t call out of work to hang out with your significant other . I’ve seen this WAY TOO MANY TIMES.
Relationships will make you lose focus. One will become distracted without even noticing. You simply catch yourself doing things you normally wouldn’t and adjusting your schedule to fit that of your significant other. You want the same days off, if you attend them same school ,the same classes, it’s a lot to handle.
Don’t distract yourself from your goals for anyone. This can cause much more harm than you expect. But love makes you do crazy things and that’s why it’s best to stay away. Relationships are a terrible source of distraction, and sadly, they will always be.
It's Complicated 
I can really relate to your blog this week. I actually met my significant other at work and even our work schedules wouldn’t match up and we’d become frustrated. Then I transferred to Rutgers and we try to make our schedules so that we can have a day or two off to see each other and it always puts a strain on our education! Even in lecture I find myself distracted texting on my computer instead of focusing in class-but in my head (like you said) at least I went to class? Ya nope..it’s a big distraction!! It’s good to prioritize your time but when you’re in a relationship you have not only your schedule to focus on but theirs too and it’s difficult-good post this week-I’m sure others in relationship will agree as well! 😅
LikeLiked by 1 person
Dating in college is a stress and a half. It can feel like a sixth class sometimes. I think it’s interesting though that people will bend their schedules so much just to make extra time for one person. It’s kind of sweet in that sense. However, when one of my friends and her boyfriend broke up she found that she had soo much more time to get her work done, spend time on herself, and even like clean her room. So it’s kind of crazy in that sense too. Really interesting topic to bring up! Loved it!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I have always wondered how people in college able to balance college and a relationship. I just never understood that! It must be so stressful trying to find time to spend time with your significant other while doing work for school. I feel that hanging out with your gf/bf is a necessity in a relationship since you are trying to get to know more about them. I loved reading this post! Great job!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Ive definitely gotten distracted the first two years of college because Id rather talk to her than do my homework. I even would visit her four hours away and its class a lot so I think balancing school and a relationship is very important. Its a lot harder than people think.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I think that it all depends on the people involved because it is possible. They both have to support each other and know that they have to do a lot of work for their classes. I have heard of a lot relationships where they even help their partner with their homework so it can get done quicker and they can relax. Yes relationships can be difficult at times during college but doesn’t mean they are going to set one up for failure. If you know your too busy to date then of course you won’t put yourself in a situation where you would have to choose between school and partner.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I completely agree, whenever I am talking to someone I find myself not prioritizing the important things, like paying attention in class and texting them instead. Also, there has been many times where I have skipped class also just to spend more time with them. I think people can make it work, as long as they make sure to prioritize the necessary things they must do first, and then have time for personal enjoyment, after everything is completed. But obviously most people don’t do that, myself included. But I totally relate to everything you were saying, awesome job!
LikeLiked by 1 person