We live in a generation where social media is a huge part of our lives. We spend our days scrolling through instagram, snapchat, and twitter because it helps us keep up with the world around us.
Because social media has become such an important aspect of our lives, it becomes a very significant part of our relationships. Our partners constantly want to be posted. They want the world to know that you’re with them, and no one else. Social media has become such an important factor in relationships, that if you aren’t being posted, or you’re not posting your partner, that’s a sign of infidelity. It’s ridiculous.
What are you hiding? You don’t want them to see you with me? Why is your snapchat story on custom?
And it’s not even just about what you post and not post with social media, it’s the content you “like” or “favorite” and the friends you have on these apps.
“Why did you favorite that?” For some reason, in many relationships we think that everything our partner does is a sign for something else. It could be completely unrelated, yet we still seem to connect dots and make it an issue of the relationship. We have given social media so much importance to the point where you must limit yourself and the things you may like because it may offend your partner in one way or another.
Why would anyone want that? The hassle of having someone constantly go through your likes and comments and make remarks on each and every one of them is irritating. With this, an app that was meant as a distraction or a pass time has become a foundation for arguments.
We are no longer focused on the intimacy and reality of relationships, instead we’re focused on what’s on their instagram. Social media could never reflect reality. A couple can look completely happy online, and be constantly arguing in person, but people don’t see this. This is something we ignore. It’s not how we feel, it’s how people see us.
You favorite and you like things that you may find funny, or interesting. But in a relationship that’s an “excuse”.
You don’t need that. Trust me you don’t. Enjoy the resources available to you, like social media, as much as you possibly could without limiting yourself to anyone. Relationships will force you to use social media in ways you may have never wanted to. You used it for fun, now you have to use it to prove to your partner that you’re all about them. You use to post funny memes all over your instagram, now every other post must be about your partner. You custom your snapchat story so your mother doesn’t see you out drinking on a school night, but now you have to set your settings to “Everyone can view” to satisfy your partner’s wishes. You stop yourself before liking a picture from an old friend because your partner may or may not take it the wrong way. You never know.
Moreover, some LAME significant other with trust issues may even make you delete your social media accounts, and have one themselves behind your back. They may even ask you to delete certain pictures that to them may be “too revealing” of yourself. DO NOT prioritize one insecure person’s selfish needs. DO NOT stop posting certain pictures if that is what makes you happy.
Social media in relationships is taken way too serious. You must constantly give explanations for EVERY.LITTLE.THING. Don’t waste your time posting someone who will probably end up hurting you. Post yourself, and whatever else you want. Many relationships, if not all, will come with this hassle.
LIFE IS SHORT, POST THAT PIC. LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP.
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I can relate to how social media is taking over us. Especially in relationships. However, in my opinion I feel like if you are with someone that’s basically controlling your social media accounts then you should not give in to that. I remember back when I was with this guy and he was always checking to see what I posted or who I was with. That was one of the first signs that relationship was going South. Haha now I’m in a relationship where neither one of us care what you post online, what you like, who you’re texting because it all comes down to trust.
I would of liked to see more of a personal connection. Or a story to the post this week to really engage your viewers about what specific scenarios someone may experience on social media because their significant other is controlling. Try to bring those types of connections into your future blogs!
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This post is very insightful and really captures how our generation is regarding this topic. Its really become such a key factor of relationships because I know I’ve caught myself being like ” I don’t know if they’re still dating she hasn’t posted with him in a while.” Sad but true in the world today. Again I commend you for the insightfulness of this post, it was a great read!
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People pay way too much attention to social media and even the slightest either like or post that your significant other finds “out of place or “odd” can result in a huge ordeal and could lead to a break up. I have seen first hand how a relationship can end from a misconception about what someone does on social media and it is just the new reality we live in, that this kind of stuff happens. I am not sure if you watch Bachelorette or Bachelor in Paradise but something recently happened in the aftermath of that show that relates to your blog. Jordan, who was a guy on the show was in a relationship with a girl Jenna after the show ended. Everything seemed great with them until text messages were revealed that she was cheating on him with another guy. Chaos ensued, and she said she did not send the texts, and he said she did. And there went their relationship.
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This post relates so much to our daily lives. This reminds me of a show where couples are on a blind date and they determine at the end whether they would like to go on another date. But, this is right after they look at each other’s phones. I think it is interesting because the majority tend to call it quits and move on. Our phones and what we put on social media is beginning to become our identities. We have that major concern of “what are people going to think about me?” It is very stressful to be overly concern of what others are going to judge you for. Our relationships should not affect what we post on social media but unfortunately, it does! Great post, love this!!
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I’m living for this post! I rarely post on social media and people always ask me why or they’re like “Post more!”. It’s not that serious to me. ESPECIALLY when it comes to relationships, I don’t care to post a guy all over my social media. To me, that gives people an opportunity to be in our business. Just think about those couples who post each other nonstop, then one day all those photos are magically erased. I don’t want or need that stress in my life. People need to live in the moment and stop letting this “pics or it didn’t happen” culture run their lives. Social media can be fun to use, but shouldn’t be used to validate your place in someone’s life.
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This absolutely 100% accurate and so many people relate to this, even if they aren’t in a relationship. People put way too much attention into how they portray themselves and their relationships on social media. Most of the time these are not accurate representations, however that doesn’t stop people from getting so invested into the whole idea of it. Awesome post!
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Say it louder for the people in the back! I totally agree with you. People get so worked up if their partner hasn’t been posting them, or favorites someones’ tweet. Couples get into full on brawls over a dumb tweet. As someone in a relationship I don’t have any preexisting expectations of how many times my boyfriend should be posting me. And it’s nice to not have expectations, because when he does post me it’s like a nice little surprise. It makes me smile.
Couples feel the need to post everything they’re doing to look like a perfect insta couple. I remember complimenting my friend’s picture she posted of her and her boyfriend and she flat out said they were arguing during it, but at least the pic came out good??? I could never try and force a smile in a picture while I’m in an argument. Why would you want to remember that? Because it looks cute I guess. Kind of a sad generation lol. I really enjoy your posts, keep them coming!
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the amount of times ive heard What are you hiding? You don’t want them to see you with me? Why is your snapchat story on custom id be a billionaire. its ridiculous. I got peppered every week for literally nothing. good to see other people understand the same things I went through bc I thought I was alone lol.
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